Saturday 30 June 2012

What's the way out?


Read thousands of self-motivational books, hear thousands of lectures by people who ask you to do what you love. Movies and posters saying you money is not everything in life. Gurujis and swamijis mesmerizing you, making you believe that health is more important than wealth. Bottom line is all the above said people, write books, stories, direct movies, lectures, not because they care for you, but because they care for money.

                If they really believe money is not important in life, why don’t they write books for free? Direct movies without salary, and bless people without getting donations, teach yoga and meditation for free?           “Follow your dream” is a fancy word, for which people fall easily. Most of the persons who ask you to follow your dream, are those who aren't aware of their own passion. Motivational experts lecture hours together explaining the benefits of following passion, to the people who haven’t even found their passion yet.

                Assume that you have found your fuming passion, due to some magical spell. First case-You are on safe zone until your passion is something like engineer, IAS, IITs, IIMs, Doctor, CA, business, and so on, Because most probably you will have some backing from parents, society and friends.  On 9 out of 10 occasions, it won’t be your true passion. But the Immense social pressure would have made you believe it’s your passion. Most of the people are doing what they do because, their society thinks, it’s a great thing to do.

“Following your dream” is a like two sided sword. You can’t handle it without hurting yourself or others.

                I sincerely believe that lakhs of people having a common ambition or passion for engineering, medicine, or IAS is abnormal, because if it had been so, technological, medical and economic revolution would have been long begun in our country. We wouldn’t be seeking foreign help for setting up nuclear reactors and aerospace facilities, our children wouldn’t have been malnourished, and rupee value won’t be stumbling.

                Second case-You wake up in middle of a nightmare and find your passion to be something among, sport, arts, music, dance, writing, talking and so the so called weird things. If it’s the case, then no sane father in this country will allow his daughter to marry you. And if you are a girl, then you will get tagged as ‘anti-cultural’, and that you are tarnishing the tradition of this country.

           


    Either you should hurt the feelings of your parents and bear the words of society to pursue your interest, or should dump your passion and live for others.
                                                           
                                                                 What’s the way out?

5 comments:

  1. thirumalai nambi30 June 2012 at 16:57

    Dear Trimal Troy ..Iam happy because of the resonance of our thinking !..Good to see another thinker.Even I d ont understand the word passion.We are mixing work with passion. IAS etc are work and Passion is something that interests you (an addiction). That interests can vary from time to time and then when you get involved into it interest becomes passion . Could be anything .

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    1. Thank you sir. My reply is going to be quite elaborate.
      1. Passion--Imagine yourself in a routine normal world, except that there are no people around. The first thing you think or try to do, defines your passion.(Will you go to work yet?!). Passion will not only interest you, but will make you HAPPY!!!
      2. As u correctly said, we are mixing work with passion. That is why most of us are bored with our work at some point of time. I believe that, it is because we think engineering and IAS and others, as just work, we are still lagging in technical and infrastructural arena. Many choose those works, mainly for power and money, under the disguise of social welfare.
      3. My point is, What if our passion becomes our work?
      won't we be the best in that field? Many don't do it for the fear of social pressure, and they choose to do work.

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  2. I just got a bit stunned reading these lines of yours: "Most of the persons who ask you to follow your dream, are those who aren't aware of their own passion"

    We should understand that there is a difference between coffee corner discussions and suggestions given by a coach or leaders. Seek suggestions from people whom you respect or who have the ability to comprehend the situation.

    Not many people discover their passions easily. There are many who can't do it in their entire lifetimes. It is important to find out your passion.

    As far as passion and work is concerned, if you really excel in your passion, then money will come in. Put in those 10,000 hours of hard work and then tell me if the money is not flowing in.
    Sabyasachi
    http://www.indiawilds.com/diary/

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  3. I totally agree with you Mr. Sabyasachi. But a dedicated coach and inspiring leaders, who can turn around our lives, are very few and really hard to find. that's why I mentioned, '"Most" persons...'. Thank you for taking your time to comment your views.

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  4. Nice write up da...

    We Indians basically value our commitments more than our passion. You cant say thats wrong. Coz, thats the main reason why still india is pretty decent habit and culture-wise compared to usa, uk, etc.

    Ofcourse we are not sooooo good economically too.

    But if Govt introduces policies like that of china and gives out sponsorship, am quite sure more passionate people will take up their passion.

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